HEY GUYS: WE REALLY DON’T WANT TO DO UNPROTECTED SEX WITH YOU
My girlfriend is so amazing but she won’t have sex without protection. Should I break up with her?
Uh, no, my friend, you shouldn’t break up with her. You should get on board with protecting body and hers. Your girl IS amazing–she’s being smart and respecting herself. Breaking up with her won’t fix your problem. The next girl will want to use protection too (if she wants to sleep with you at all). Because girls who have their shit together don’t want to nail a guy who doesn’t agree to practicing safe sex. Here’s why:
1. We don’t want a kid before we’re emotionally, psychologically and financially ready to make a go of it.
2. We don’t want want to get sick with an STD. Duh.
3. We don’t want to go through the what-if-I’m-pregnant scare. We don’t want to feel shitty for being irresponsible or have to take a morning after pill. They jack up our bodies and make us feel sick and fatigued. For some girls, it’s like asking for the flu or worse. It’s stressful and unnecessary.
4. We want to have fun with a dude who respects our bodies as much as we do (not to mention his own).
End of story. You want to stay healthy and not worry about being a dad before your ready, right? We thought so. If the condoms you’re using with your girlfriend minimize stimulation for you, try different types and brands to find something that feels as good as it works. Because dodging safe sex all together only shows that you’re not ready to have sex with other people at all.
ILLUSTRATION: MODIFIED FROM MAURO GATTI, SAFE SEX ALWAYS (SEE OUR TUMBLR FOR ORIGINAL WORK)